In preparing for my lesson this week, I read the following: “A lot of times the best way to know how to care for someone else is to think about what makes us feel cared for.” I used to believe that. In fact, I lived my life that way. But my divorce taught me that’s completely wrong. I spent my marriage trying to prove to my wife that I loved her by caring for her in ways in which I wanted to be cared for. Honestly, I knew no other way. Maybe that works for some people. But I’m apparently different enough from most folks that it will never work for me. And I think it’s an absolutely awful thing to teach.